Comparing Yourself to Others Quotes - Focus on the Good

Written by: Shreya Manerkar – MA (Clinical Psychology)
Last updated date : March 24, 2023

Many people on various social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube talk about their success. As a result of this, you start comparing yourself to others and use their quotes as life lessons. However, do you know how life can change if you use “focus on myself quotes instead?”

In this article, we will explain what is self-esteem and how it affects our life. We will also share quotes about comparing yourself to others is harmful and explain how you should focus on yourself. Lastly, we will discuss methods in which you can stop comparing yourself to others and focus only on yourself.

Let us begin this article by defining what is self-esteem.

  • Self Esteem – it is how you see yourself. These are the opinions you have about yourself and your life. It is the confidence you have in your abilities and skills.
  • When you frequently read quotes comparing yourself to others, you may feel bad about yourself. The biggest problem with this comparison is that we don’t know how other people live. It is easy to fake things on online platforms. Instead, it is important to focus on quotes that are uplifting, motivating and positive.

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Chapter 1:

Are Quotes Comparing Yourself with Others Bad?

While having role models and inspiration is common, reading quotes constantly comparing your life to other people is unhealthy. Here are some inspiring quotes that you can take motivation from every day.

Euginia Herlihy – Comparison Is the Most Poisonous Element in the Human Heart Because It Destroys Ingenuity and It Robs Peace and Joy.

This quote perfectly summarizes why comparing yourself to others can make you jealous. When you focus on others, you become sad. You stop enjoying life because you feel when you live like others, you will be happy.

Roy A. Ngansop – The Tip of the Neighbor’s Iceberg Often Looks Very Nice.

This quote tells us that comparing your life to others will lead to unhappiness. It is similar to another famous quote – the grass is always greener on the other side. This means that people will only show their good side. No one likes to speak about their bad points.

Bangambiki Habyarimana – You Are Not Required to Perform like Them, You Are Required to Perform like You.

This quote encourages you to focus on your abilities and not others. It also shows you that you don’t need to be like others and only perform to the best of your abilities.

Tim Hiller – Don’t Compare Your Beginning to Someone Else’s Middle, or Your Middle to Someone Else’s End. Don’t Compare the Start of Your Second Quarter of Life to Someone Else’s Third Quarter.

This wonderful quote by Tim Hiller shows us how comparing ourselves is unfair because everyone’s journey is different. A 25-year-old man just starting a new job cannot compare himself to a 50-year-old CEO of a company. Both are are different stages of their lives.

Oscar Wilde – Be Yourself; Everyone Else Is Already Taken.

Oscar Wilde’s quote motivates us to focus on being unique and stand apart from others. Through this quote, Oscar Wilde encourages us to be different.

Ralph Waldo Emerson – To Be Yourself in a World That Is Constantly Trying to Make You Something Else Is the Greatest Accomplishment.

Through this quote, Ralph Waldo Emerson encourages people to stop comparing themselves to others. He also explains how you should stand out and be different from the world.

Steven Furtick – The Reason We Struggle with Insecurity Is Because We Compare Our Behind-The-Scenes with Everyone Else’s Highlight Reel.

This quote perfectly summarizes how people become insecure when they start comparing themselves to others. It also shows us that what we see on the surface is different from what happens behind closed doors.

Regina Brett – Don’t Compare Yourself to Others. You Have No Idea What Their Journey Is All About.

Similar to the other quotes we have read so far, this also discourages us from comparing ourselves to others. It also tells us that we don’t know what other people are going through. And so, focusing on them is unhelpful.

Theodore Roosevelt – Comparison is the thief of joy.

Lastly, this quote summarizes how comparing and focusing on others can make us sad. If you want to grow, you need to stop trying to live like other people. Instead, you should focus on being unique and confident.

Chapter 2:

How Can You Start Focusing On Yourself?

With so much information available online, you may end up reading about other people even if you don’t want to. You may look at others and think ‘I wish I could buy this car’ or ‘I wish I had a relationship like this one, they seem so happy. However, do you feel that just because they have a car or a new dress, are they happy?

You will mostly say No. Even if you see someone living the perfect life, you don’t know what other people are going through. It is easy to click a photo faking a smile even if you are unhappy inside.

Here are some simple tips you can follow if you catch yourself comparing your life to other people.

Limit Time on Social Media

Sometimes, reading one self-motivating quote and seeing someone successful can lead to us comparing our life to theirs even without realizing it. How many times have you aimlessly scrolled through other people’s posts and wondered when you will succeed like them? And before you know it, the quotes you read make you focus on how your life is sad.

Hence, it is important to limit the time you spend on social media and focus on self-care. You can spend this time learning a new hobby or skill, and focusing on your physical health.

Remember – Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness

A lot of people who share stories about their wealth may not necessarily be happy. You don’t know what they are thinking on the inside even if they are sitting in a BMW. Hence, stop comparing what you see outside to what you feel inside. Avoid thinking of money as the only source of happiness.

Compare Only When It Motivates You

While not everything that we see online is healthy, we can truly use comparison to motivate ourselves. So, if you come across a story, take that as an inspiration to focus on making yourself better.

Focus On Your Good Points

There is one common point in all the quotes you read above. Do you know what it is? Yes, stop comparing and focus on yourself. Take a notebook and write all your good points. Unfortunately, when we look at the lives of other people, we forget to celebrate our uniqueness.

Celebrate Yourself and Others

Along with celebrating your success, learn to celebrate the achievements of others. This outlook will help you understand other people, be at peace and be happy.

Chapter 3:

Our Final Thoughts

With all the Instagram posts and news, we read every day, it can be difficult to draw the line between comparing and celebrating. This constant comparison can lead to you feeling low about yourself and questioning your self-worth. Hence, we recommend enrolling in our self-help course ‘Low self-esteem, which will help you build your confidence and find your uniqueness.

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