What to Say to Someone Who Lost a Parent? Choose the Right Words!

Written by: Arooj Paulus – B. Sc (Applied Psychology)
Last updated date : March 14, 2023

Trying to come up with the “right” words to say to someone who has lost a parent? Condolences may be stressful for some people as it can renew their pain. Coping with the death of a parent, whether it be an expected or unexpected loss, is extremely tough. As one of the most painful and heartbreaking events a person may go through is the loss of a parent.

Our parents have been the kind hands that have guided us through life since we were little. When that guiding light goes, we might have a terrible feeling of sadness and loss. When someone close to us dies, it can be difficult to find meaningful words to convey our sorrow and condolences. Especially when someone has lost a parent.

People who are mourning do not want others to take away their suffering. Most people who are mourning may want other to:

  • Acknowledge their painful emotions.
  • Be there for them.
  • Remember them and and their lost loved one.
  • Show your  support both now and in the future.

However, acts such as bringing a food or spending time with them to cheer them up might be more consoling.

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Chapter 1:

Examples of What to Say to Someone Who Lost a Parent

Following are examples of consoling words to say to someone who lost a parent.
  1. I understand that this is a hard moment for you and your family. Our prayers are with you.
  2. Always remember that I am here to talk, console, and support you at this difficult moment.
  3. I don’t have words to express my feelings but I can feel your pain and I care about you.
  4. It is tough to deal with the loss of someone so dear. During this tough time, I extend my love to you and your family.
  5. After the funeral and the prayer, we will still be here with you to mourn. Do not feel alone in this difficult time.
  6. My heartfelt sympathies to you in this painful time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
  7. We would like to extend our heartfelt condolences to you and your family. We remember you and your family in our prayers.
  8. I was really saddened to hear about the loss of your parent. In this difficult time, I hope you may find comfort in the company of family and close friends.
  9. I was shocked to learn about the death of your parent. I understand how important he/she was to you. So sorry for your loss.
  10. Reflect back in this time of grief and find consolation in all of the special memories you have made with your parent. Your father/mother was a great human.

Chapter 2:

Examples of Words for Someone Who Lost Their Mother

It is never easy to go on a mourning path. So consoling and choosing right words especially for someone who lost their mother.

Here is a list of consoling words for lost mother.

“She Is Always Here with You”

  1. A mother is forever with us, first during her life and later in our memories.
  2. I am sure your mother is keeping an eye on you and safeguarding you. Your mother’s soul will guide you just like she did while she was alive.
  3. Your mother is watching you from above so she will not be happy to see you like this.
  4. The love of a mother is always with her children.

“She Is an Angel Now in Heaven”

  1. There is a new angel in Heaven. Your mother was a good human. God bless you and your loved ones and keep you safe at this trying time.
  2. Your lovely mother has turned into an angel, looking above you, guarding you, and lovingly guiding you.
  3. When your mother died, heaven got a bit brighter.

“Her Memory Will Always Live On”

  1. Your mum is unlike everyone else on the earth. She was an unique personality and dear to everyone around.
  2. Your mother’s love, kindness, and concern were inspiring, and her memory will live on always.
  3. Your mother was a blessing to the society, and her kindness will live on in you. Her absence will be felt deeply.
  4. I did not know your mother much, but she must have been an amazing mother to raise such a remarkable child as you.
  5. During such a difficult period, please accept my heartfelt condolences for you and your family. Your mother was a wonderful woman and she will be missed dearly.
  6. You are carrying on your mother’s wonderful traits admirably. We will always remember her.
  7. No one will ever be able to replace the lovely lady your mother was. During this difficult moment, my prayers are with you.
  8. Your mother was an outstanding person who was adored by those who knew her. Please know that we are sorry for your loss and send our heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
  9. May these words provide you with peace as you grieve the loss of your mother. Her wonderful nature and charming smile will stay with me forever. May God comfort you through this trying time.
  10. I recall how much mother cared for us and was always there for us. Your mother will always be considered a member of our family.

“She Was a Strong Woman”

  1. My deepest sympathies are with you during this difficult time. May God’s mercy heal you in knowing that your mother’s long suffering is over and she is at rest.
  2. I know your mother had a difficult time and battled bravely. Her death has really saddened me.
  3. Your mother was a happy yet brave soul. She was always making us happy too. Our heartfelt sympathies.
  4. Your mother was a great woman and a close friend, and we were all heartbroken to learn of her death. From our family to yours, we send our sympathies.

Chapter 3:

Call to Action

The death of a parent is one of the most painful reality of life. If you or someone you know is going through this tough time then you can read or suggest someone to read “How to Accept the Death of a Parent and Cope” at Epsychonline.

Further you can enroll in “Coping with Chronic Pain” course at Epsychonline. So that you can deal with chronic pain during this difficult period.

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