Leaving Home: Tips to Grow Independence
- 1. Leaving Home for the First Time
- 1. Leaving Home for the First Time
- 2. How to Cope with Feelings When Moving Out
- 3. Tips for Separation Anxiety
- 4. Tips for Leaving Home for the First Time
- 5. Familial Difficulties
- 6. Life Once You’ve Moved Out
- 7. The Importance of Self-Care
- 8. Asking for Help When Leaving Home
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Many of us dream of leaving home and finally closing the door into our own space. The idea of a place to call ours, that we can decorate, and move into adult life. But, moving out of home into another can be a challenging transition.
It’s okay if you’re nervous in the run-up to moving, then there’s the stress of the move itself. Also, sometimes feelings of loneliness or anxiety can crop up. However, it’s completely natural to go through a host of emotions whilst moving out of home, so try not to be too hard on yourself. Instead, let’s go over some great ways to grow your independence, so you can flourish out in the world.
Leaving Home for the First Time
But, not everyone’s first time is college; for some, it’s sooner and others later. The time at which you move isn’t what’s important. In most scenarios, you will need to learn to cook for yourself, clean the home, pay rent/ bills, and live with either new people or by yourself.
All the while maintaining schoolwork or a job (or both). It can be very overwhelming for some to learn how to live with a group of new people or stay on top of chores. But there are some great tips throughout this article to help the process run a little smoother. But first, let’s take a look at the emotional aspects of moving out of home.
How to Cope with Feelings When Moving Out
- Stress: Make sure to plan your move well to negate the stress. A few months before, start sorting clothes and items in piles of things to keep, throw, and leave at your parents home.
- Sadness: Leaving our loved ones means that feelings of sadness can arise, especially on the day of the move. Notice the feelings of nostalgia and allow yourself to get tearful. It’s alright to feel sad, and there’s no need to hold it in or appear brave.
- Loneliness: Although we know we’ll still see our loved ones, moving can feel lonely. Just remember that they’re a phone call away, and you can find activity groups in your new area to make new friends.
- Irritability: Sometimes, we can become irritable from moving out of home itself. The stress and logistics of moving stuff can be tiring. Remember to try to get the rest you need post-move.
- Fear: That’s it, you’re now the adult who needs to take on all responsibility for shaping your life. Although it can seem scary at first,understand that it’s a learning process, which takes time.
- Anxiety: You will make mistakes when living alone, you will be late with bills, you’ll learn how to budget, and it’s all about learning how to not only survive but thrive.
Tips for Separation Anxiety
How to overcome your separation anxiety is up to you; let’s go over some possible methods. Number one would be to remember to stay connected with friends and family after leaving home. Schedule in, video calls and trips back to see everyone.
Next, explore your area and be proactive about making new friends. You can do this at your university’s starting fare, where you can join activity groups and meet people that way. If you’re an adult, then the same applies, Google activities that you love that you can do in the area. You can also meet people at work, the gym, or even neighbours you can ask to show you around.
Lastly, make your room or your house a home. Put your stamp on it with the budget you have! Don’t forget to create a relaxing space to help you wind down. Perhaps buying some nice candles, throws, and carpets to make your space nice a cosy.
Tips for Leaving Home for the First Time
Living With OthersIf you’re moving out of home and in with someone else or a group of new people, it can be an interesting transition to living with your family. There’s what I call the rose-tinted excitement when you first meet them, but then the reality of living with others settles in. what’s going out of it.
Everyone lives; differently; it’s important to remember that because you do things around the house one way doesn’t mean everyone else will.
If any difficulties arise, the best way is to communicate them effectively. For example, sit housemates down and chat about organising house payments, cleaning, buying house essentials, etc. One big tip is don’t use passive-aggressive post-it notes, which leads to resentments, instead confront the conflict with an open mind.
Tidy House, Tidy MindI went to university and lived with four boys, let’s just say I’ve seen some things when it comes to how filthy a house can get. I found the best way was to set a time once or twice a week where the whole house had to chip in and clean together.
Of course, if you’re by yourself, a great way is to clean the dishes right away and tidy the home twice a week. There’s something relaxing about the act of cleaning and seeing your home in order, especially if you work from home.
Save Money For Unexpected BillsOne thing I learnt when leaving home is water bills seem to crop up out of nowhere, or that unexpected car repair that sets you back a couple of hundred. A great tip to save your money for a rainy day is creating a savings account, calculating what money you can part with, and just throwing it in there.
For example, look at your earnings, take out what you will be spending on rent, bills and food. Then calculate how much you need for spending on fun and activities, and whatever you have left, throw it in your savings account. Make sure it’s the kind of account you can withdraw from easily in case a rainy day comes.
Budgeting Is KeyAt first, I didn’t have any kind of budget, and when you don’t budget your spending, you’re probably going to overspend. So it’s worth taking ten minutes to write out what money is coming into your account and what’s going out of it.
Have a solid budget for your food shop spend, eating out, toiletries, pharmacy needs, office or school supplies, home decorations, clothing, etc. You can plan monthly and every few month budgets – some things like home decorations won’t be as important as the food you’ll be eating.
In this case, it’s best to speak to organisations that handle familial difficulties and can help you transition. For example, there are great charities like Childline, that helps young people with moving out of home. Or Crisis that helps adults either get out of homelessness.
The emotional turmoil of family issues is difficult to bear alone sometimes. That’s why finding advisors or support is crucial in helping you find your stability. Know that you’re not alone in this, that there are others out there struggling too, but that you can find your independence.
An idea might be to outline what you need to find that independence. Start to create a plan on paper. Ask yourself what you need to get your own place? Do you need more money? Do you need to create more or less of a separation between you and your guardians? Who can you turn to for help to get you on your feet? Then plan towards how you can communicate these needs with the right people.
Life Once You’ve Moved Out
“Dare to be brave. Move out of your old house, and leave everything behind to start anew. You’ll be surprised at the great things life will have in store for you.” – Unknown
Adulthood is difficult, it’s beautiful, and it’s a journey towards becoming yourself. You will learn so much about yourself and your capabilities when you begin managing your life. Set routines that help you stay active and rest enough to come back the next day even better.
Time is now yours to focus on your career, your relationships, your self-development.