Abusive Mother Who Emotionally Abuses You
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Have you experienced extreme self-shame after your mother degraded you for doing something wrong? You were criticized. And abused non-stop for a long period. And you were made guilty about it. Moreover, your emotionally abusive mother can make you a victim if you have no support in your family or outside. Therefore, you should not keep quiet about it and talk to other family members. But if you are already suffering from depression then you need professional help yourself. For that, you need to talk to an elder like your school teacher or friend, or a relative. No matter what the outcome of your try but you should give do it. An abusive mother can harm you in the long run.
Additionally, your physical and mental well-being is very important for the future. But, your constant abuse and emotional torture can make you mentally weak leading to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Moreover, many children develop extreme self-hatred or shame. And when are bullied at home? You may not even realize it. And you are being manipulated. And abused by your loved one. People say mothers are equal to god on earth. But they can in many cases abuse their children which could be because of several reasons.
First of all, you will show signs of withdrawal and isolation if you face abuse at home. Moreover, you will not be able to narrate your story because you are too ashamed of yourself. Also, you need a lot of courage to stand for yourself. And come out of the circle of emotional torture that you face at home. Furthermore, you need to believe that you are not alone. And some people can help but you need to ask. Hence, your silence will work against you. So, get up and talk to someone about your situation. Do not be scared or embarrassed about yourself.
Secondly, your mother will continuously manipulate you to do things she wants. And if you disagree with her. Then she will get upset and aggressive with you. If you feel that you no longer tolerate the behavior then you can talk to an adult in your family and ask for their opinion on it.
Also, your freedom will be lost. She will monitor you all the time. And would check your phone in your absence. Also, she would your journals. Moreover, you will feel trapped and suffocated around her.
Signs of Emotional Abuse
- Ignore or reject your kid continuously. And do not consider his or her feelings after the rejection.
- Scaring your child and calling out names. Also threatening at times. This can make the child anxious and scared about the mother.
- Also, you blame everything on the child. So, the child feels guilt and shame all the time. And you have little remorse about your actions.
- Moreover, the child is asked to do things that will embarrass him. For instance, you make him wear girls’ clothes.
- You manipulate your child emotionally when you want something from him. And later you discard him and hurt his feelings. You will repeat a circle of abuse as the child may not be in a position to help himself.
- Furthermore, you expose your child to dangerous situations. For instance, you ask him to buy something for you at night. And it can endanger his life as he is all alone by himself.
Why Did the Abuse Occur?
You see that there are several reasons for emotional or any other abuse to occur. First of all, the culprit could have prior mental health issues. And it could be made him or her insensitive to the pain of others. For instance, your mother abused you as a child. Because she has a history of repeated abuse by her father. And she became like this because of her past.
Secondly, victims are seen as weak and can be exploited. This is a reason that in many cases victims are children or women. Therefore, children need constant protection from their loved ones.
Dealing With Abuse
First, you need to call out the behavior of your abuser. And most importantly do not suffer in silence. You need to raise yours against it. So it will stop when you speak to. Otherwise, you will keep facing the abuse. You tell the person that their actions and behavior are harming your well-being. And they need to stop. Also, try to make them realize the pain that you suffer. Tell them that you are sad and depressed because of the ongoing abuse.
Secondly, do not engage or encourage your abuser. IF the abuser tries to manipulate you then come out of this state and stand for your rights. You are born free. And do not deserve to be abused. And not manipulated by a loved one. Moreover, you can draw boundaries. For instance, you ask your mother to not see your phone in your absence. And make sure she abides you. Also, you need to be firm and direct to stop your abuse. It’s okay if you feel hopeless and helpless. Many victims bear abuse for years and years without speaking up. And later in their lives they regret it and feel ashamed.
More Ways to Deal With Abuse
First of all, your partner abused you. And then you can end the relationship. Moreover, you should take a stand for yourself and seek help. In contrast, if you wait for anything to change then you will waste several years of your life on it. DO not believe him when he says that he will surely change his behavior. Because abusive people never change.
Secondly, consult your therapist. You can narrate your situation to the therapist and ask for his opinion. Also, go for therapies that the therapist suggests. As you face longtime abuse you may need therapy to accept and deal with your past.
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