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DBT for Anger Course
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You must have heard the phrase, ‘Friends for life.’ But how many friends actually stay with us throughout our lives? You see there are very few. As we grow apart in phases. When we met in school or college then time was there to spare. You must have bunk classes to meet your friends outside the college. But when you start working then you have no time for others. So, growing apart from friends become a natural process. And people often ask what to do when your best friend is drifting away. You can always connect with people you miss and spend time with them.
Additionally, with time things change and so does your friendship. You see when you move to a different place then you will talk less. And gradually you will grow apart. If you want to be in contact then ta;k regularly. But you cannot force the other person. Everyone else has things going on in their lives. And they have set their priorities. And you are not getting out of your usual conversation. Also, your phone calls are short and boring. Moreover, things are repeated and it is drag on. Even if you try your friend is not interested then you will also grow apart. Therefore, people form new friends as per their needs.
Growing Apart From Friends
Furthermore, you have some goals to achieve. For instance, you want to be a professional dancer. while your friend is studying to be a doctor. Then it is not possible to be close. But you can talk on social media. And see if it works. But gradually you will set your priorities. You cannot stay stagnant. And not grow, the same is true for your mate. Let the natural process takes place. And see what happens. Your life will give you opportunities to be close once again.
Things That Lead to Reduction in Closeness Among Friends
Secondly, your talks become less with each day. And you cannot seem to think about what to say. And it becomes a burden to talk at all. Also, the talks become a drag and repetition. And with nothing important to share.
Third of all, you may not enjoy getting together. As you are always in a hurry when you meet your friends. And you have other things to do. Moreover, Your friend himself is busy. And meeting seems like time wastage for you both. And it is a clear indication of you too drifting apart.
Fourth of all, you have other priorities. You need to study or work. And your friend is no longer on your list. Furthermore, you cannot get time for him. And he too is busy with his life. So, you too decide to meet less.
Life Goals Are Different
Second of all, one of you has lost interest in each other. You have to spend time on learning and lectures. And similarly, your friend is busy in his life. And so you lose focus on each other. It is just after years you will realize how time went by.
Third of all, you lost the address. You have not talked to your friend in years. And in the process, you lost his contact information. Also, when you remember him now you have no address.
Next of all, your misunderstanding stays alive. You have some things going on. And those things were not resolved between you two. And so much time has passed. So, you can try to resolve the problem. And move forward. It will help you grow in life. And you will become free and happy. Also, you need not think about the incident again.
You cannot express yourself properly. Moreover, you need to contend with your friend. Then you can communicate well. You feel excluded by new friends of your mate.
Things to Do to Get Close
Connect to your friend when you get time. And do not go lazy. You need to maintain your relationship. As you do not get friends easily in life.
Develop common interests with him. If you both have drifted apart then learn something together. It will help you to pass some time with your friend. And also you can learn the skill. You need not force yourself. You can take time and decide for yourself.
Get together whenever possible. You should not lose the chance to eat together. Moreover, cherish the memories that you have together. And don’t let go of your friendship.
Resolve past differences as soon as possible. Why sit over past? You should move forward and let go of things. Moreover, forgiving and forgetting will unload the burden.
Find time for each other. You can meet on weekends. Moreover, you can go on vacation together. And even join each other’s families. It will depend upon yourself.