How Can I Make Up for Missing My Son at Christmas?

Written by: Ilbey Ucar – PhD (Psychology)

Last updated date : March 30, 2022

Table of Contents How Can I Make Up for Missing My Son at Christmas?
  1. Coping Strategies For Missing My Son At Christmas
  2. Take Away

Are you missing your son at Christmas who lives far away? You might miss putting up the Christmas tree and cooking together with his favorite food. It’s amazing to see a happy, loving family all wearing matching pajamas, Santa hats, and big smiles.

Christmas is the best time of year when you all wish to spend the holidays with your entire family. However, it is normal for some of our family members to live far away in this globalized society. This is sad because the point of Christmas is to spend time with family and friends.

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Table of Contents How Can I Make Up for Missing My Son at Christmas?
  1. Coping Strategies For Missing My Son At Christmas
  2. Take Away

 

Are you missing your son at Christmas who lives far away? You might miss putting up the Christmas tree and cooking together with his favorite food. It’s amazing to see a happy, loving family all wearing matching pajamas, Santa hats, and big smiles.

Christmas is the best time of year when you all wish to spend the holidays with your entire family. However, it is normal for some of our family members to live far away in this globalized society. This is sad because the point of Christmas is to spend time with family and friends.

Chapter 1:

Coping Strategies For Missing My Son At Christmas

 

Going out and doing something helpful is one way to deal with missing someone at Christmas. Find something to do that fits your mood and state of mind for the day instead of spending the day alone and missing someone.

For example, if you have a lot of energy and the weather is nice, go for a long run. You might want to go to a church service if you want to be around other people. Here are some ways to spend Christmas besides thinking about how much you miss your son at Christmas.

Say ‘Yes’

Maybe you turned down invitations and are spending Christmas alone and missing your son who lives far away. You should know that it’s fine to call them back and say “yes.” People with social anxiety often have this problem: they turn down invitations and feel lonely.

Be Good To Yourself

Even though you may still miss your son at Christmas, taking care of yourself can make you feel better. It will help you enjoy your time alone more. Doing something for yourself, like taking a relaxing bath and giving yourself spa treatments, curling up with a good book, enjoying a hobby, or learning something new, is especially important when things are hard.

Take Time To Volunteer

Volunteering is one way to gain a greater appreciation for all the good things in your life. Whether it’s Christmas or another holiday, volunteering is a great way to meet new people. It boost your self-esteem, and make other people happy. You could offer to help serve dinner at a soup kitchen, bring gifts to a children’s hospital, or stop by a nursing home to talk to lonely people who live there.

If you’re nervous about doing these social activities, that’s great! It’s a chance to push yourself and learn more about how to get along with other people. In fact, studies show that being kind may make you less likely to stay away from people.

Host An Orphan Christmas

Plan an “orphan Christmas” for people who won’t be spending the holiday with their sons or other family members. You can also join a group of people in the same situation. If you feel nervous about reaching out, remember that other people who miss their sons or other family members at Christmas may also feel isolated, lonely, and nervous to call on you.

Celebrate Online With Your Son

Are you missing your son at Christmas who lives far away? Let’s face it: a big trip during a busy time of year isn’t always possible for any reason. If you can’t take a plane or car, the next best thing is technology. Set up a time to talk with your son on Skype or Facetime. On Thanksgiving, Christmas, and other big holidays, you can always Facetime.

Please plan and set up a specific time for a video call while your son is opening their holiday gifts. You will love being there when your son is excited. Even though you will be celebrating in different places, it will feel like you are together.

Schedule A Family Christmas Toast!

A-Zoom dinner might be hard to pull off if you have a lot of cousins, aunts, uncles, Son, daughters’ siblings with young kids, and parents who don’t like technology all that much. Someone’s internet is going to go crazy, and grandma won’t be able to figure out how to mute herself. Instead, have a toast off-screen with wine, coffee, tea, or hot chocolate to take some of the pressure off.

Great if you can find out how to use videoconferencing. If not, ask everyone to send a selfie of their holiday set-up and favourite drink in a group chat. The pictures will make you smile, which should help you get through the day. Send a bottle of champagne (or another drink) to everyone on your toast list so that you can all drink the same thing.

Send Heartfelt Greeting Cards Or Gifts

Missing your son at Christmas who lives far away? No, doubt that it can be very sad. Oh, it’s so much fun to sit down at Christmas and write a card to your son, who has made you happy all year long. Small, thoughtful gifts and handwritten cards will go a long way toward making you and your son feel loved and important. Even if money is very tight, it’s still a good idea to plan phone calls or online events where you can sing songs, tell funny stories from the past, and stay in touch.

Find And Enjoy The Positives

It is not easy to find the positive side of a time when you were missing your son at Christmas who lives far away. Still, mental and emotional health needs to look for, enjoy, and celebrate any win, even if it’s just getting out of bed or sending a holiday card. This is “Reframing” in psychology. This is when a person looks at something from a different point of view or not only from a negative point of view so that the whole picture is seen from a different perspective.

Instead of saying, “I am missing my son at Christmas, who lives far away, so Christmas this year is very sad and boring”, you could say, “I won’t be able to be with my son this Christmas because he is putting his health and schoolwork first.” Or, think about ways you can be with your son, like being ready to use Zoom for the virtual Christmas parties. You can also meet other people to take your mind off things.

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Chapter 2:

Take Away

If being alone on Christmas makes you feel really sad and you can’t pull yourself out of it, ask for help. Call a friend, your son, or someone else in your family, or a helpline. No matter how far away from people you are on Christmas, you should never feel like you don’t have support. People would love to hear from you, and trained volunteers are waiting to help and support you.

Talk to a professional about how you’re feeling. Getting professional help can often be more helpful than people expect, whether your feelings are only heightened during the holidays or are constant throughout the year.

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