How To Get Over Embarrassment?​

Written by: Maheen Asif M.Sc (Clinical Psychology)

Last updated date : January 25, 2023

Do you ever wonder why you feel embarrassed all the time? We’ve all had embarrassing moments. It’s okay. But it’s important to get over the embarrassment and not let it last so long that it affects your mental health.

We all get embarrassed. We say stupid things all the time. When we accidentally open fire doors, alarms go off and make a lot of noise. We do that strange “oh-no-after-you” dance with strangers on the sidewalk. Someone says something about you that makes you red in the face.

Yes, being embarrassed is annoying and makes you feel small. It can also sneak up on you. You can wake up in the middle of the night with the same hot shame you felt when you were rude, made fun of, or did something wrong. Embarrassment can stay with you for days, years, or even decades. It does nothing at all. And if it’s not stopped, it can turn into deep shame or guilt.

In this article, we will answer question such as why do you feel embarrassed all the time. We will also discuss ways to get over embarrassment

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Chapter 1:

Why Do You Feel Embarrassed All the Time?

Here are a few reasons why you feel embarrassed all the time;

You Have Social Anxiety

One of the signs of social anxiety is the fear of being embarrassed. Other symptoms include:

  • Being afraid of situations where you might be judged.
  • Being afraid that others will notice that you’re anxious.
  • Not talking to people because you’re afraid of being embarrassed.

If your social anxiety is getting in the way of your life, you can learn ways to deal with it. You can get your life back on track by going to therapy and, in some cases, taking medicine.

You Ruminate Over Past Mistakes

If someone followed you around and told other people about your mistakes, you would feel embarrassed. But many of us hurt ourselves in this way. When you keep thinking about mistakes you’ve made in the past, you stay in a state of shame.

You Have Low Self-Esteem

If you think you’re not as good as other people, you’ll feel like you should be ashamed

Chapter 2:

How To Get Over Embarrassment?

We say we’re “dying of embarrassment” for a reason: when we’re in the middle of something embarrassing, dying really does seem like the best option. No one is immune to them, but you seem to have a knack for getting a lot of different kinds. You might want to hide in a place without Wi-Fi after something embarrassing happens to you.

Remember, It’s okay to feel bad about yourself! It’s good for you. This one has already gone and went smoothly, like a kidney stone after the first day. You may relax.

Even if you follow this advice, you will still feel embarrassed. Here are some real-life ways to deal with embarrassment. This will help you feel better the next time a client, coworker, or date says that the bottom of your shoe looks like toilet paper.

Practice Self-Compassion

Since we’re human, we all make mistakes. If you make yourself feel bad after something embarrassing happens, it can help you move on. You get into a self-critical frame of mind when you beat yourself up for making a mistake.

Self compassion is one way to get over embarrassment. If you want to practice self-compassion, you might try saying positive things to yourself. For instance, saying something like “My mistakes don’t define me” or “I am confident and I am enough” can be helpful. Positive affirmations can help you feel better about yourself and improve your health.

Think about what you would say to a friend if they want to get over embarrassment. That’s the key to being kind to yourself. You would probably tell them that no one is judging them as much as they think and that this one event does not define who they are.

Try to talk to yourself like you would a friend, and keep in mind that we are all usually our own harshest critics.

Confront Rather Than Avoid

When you’re embarrassed, your body tells you to fight or run away. If you can admit when you’ve done something wrong or fix yourself when you can, it can help you move on. If you avoid the thing that makes you afraid, you are more likely to feel embarrassed, ashamed, and anxious again.

Taking care of the embarrassing situation right away boosts confidence. It’s fine to say, “I’m embarrassed,” “I messed up,” or “Can we try that again?”

Keep Yourself Cool

When you’re ashamed, it can be hard to keep your cool. The stress can be too much to handle, but staying calm can make things better. For instance, apologizing when you make a mistake or changing the subject of the conversation can help you stay calm.

Using techniques to calm yourself may also help you stay calm. For example, you can deal with strong emotions at the moment by taking a break from the situation or doing a grounding exercise.

Take Deep Breaths

Deep breathing is good for your mental health in many ways. If you keep thinking about your embarrassment , deep breathing can help you feel less stressed when you think about it. Fear, guilt, and shame all have physical signs that can be made worse by not taking deep breaths.

Counting your breaths is a good way to help you pay attention to it.

  • Try taking 4 seconds to breathe in through your nose
  • 4 seconds to hold your breath
  • 4 seconds to breathe out.

Keep doing this until you feel yourself getting calmer.

Find The Lesson In The Experience

When we go through something embarrassing, we can learn something from it. For instance, you might not have been as ready for work or a presentation, which made you feel bad during check-in at a team meeting.

You now know what you can do to get ready for the meeting next time. Finding the lesson can help you get ready for the future and avoid being embarrassed by the same thing again.

Re Think the Situation

A technique from cognitive behavioral therapy that you can use to deal with any negative thoughts that keep coming up about your embarrassing situation. That is, write down the thoughts and feelings that came up on their own during the event. Write down what you were doing at the time. Then think of a better way to look at it.

For instance, you were giving a presentation at work and lost all of your thoughts. As soon as it happened, you thought, “Oh no! What a fool I am! I’m going to mess up, of course. It’s always what I do! I’m going to lose my job. I’m sure of it.” You started to feel scared and left the room quickly. Your healthier view is that you did mess up, but everyone does, in different ways, because no one is perfect. Also, it’s rare for someone to be a great presenter without a lot of practice. Your shaky performance just shows that you need to practice more. You decide to own up to your presentation’s bad and say sorry to your boss. You also get help from a speech coach.

Getting embarrassed does have some upsides. First, every feeling has a reason for being there. Getting embarrassed helps us understand how other people feel. It helps us think about ourselves and fix the mistakes we’ve made. “It can also help us make friends, which is important for survival.”

Practice Sense of Humor

When we feel sensitive and embarrassed, it’s hard to laugh at ourselves, but laughing at your embarrassment helps us get over them. It shows us that we don’t have to take them too seriously, and neither do other people.

Keep in mind that you shouldn’t always put yourself down or make fun of yourself. The point is to show that you’re not too serious about yourself, not that you don’t like yourself.

Chapter 3:

Take Away

It can feel hard to get over being embarrassment, but it’s not impossible. You don’t have to remember embarrassing things for the rest of your life. By using tips and tricks mentioned above can help you move on with your life after something embarrassing has happened to you . A few deep breaths, a small joke, and a kind word to yourself can sometimes turn something embarrassing into a funny story you can tell at parties. Also, if you feel embarrassed all the time, stuck in shame, guilt, or fear, it can be helpful to get help from a mental health professional so that you don’t let embarrassment run your life. Remember that everyone has embarrassing moments, but how you deal with them can make all the difference. We also have a lot of courses on mental health on our epsychonline website. There are courses on perfectionism, DBT for social anxiety and coping with bullying. These course helps us to know how it impacts our mental health. You can enroll in a course online and learn more about it. Take the first step today towards building your mental health.

"Practical and insightful" David

70 sections

6-Weeks Self-Paced

  • Educational Content
  • Quizzes
  • Self-reflection material
  • Suggestions & feedback
  • Worksheet, tips & tools to use

$9.00 $12.00

25% discount

How To Get Over Embarrassment?​