Living Alone for the First Time - How to Make It Work

Written by: Ankita Kathad – MA (Clinical Psychology)

Last updated date : February 16, 2023

Living alone for the first time can be tough. Especially, if you grew up in a large family or have just always come home to other people. Living alone for the first time can be a challenge or a welcome change. Also, it all depends on how prepared you are to jump into this journey. This article gives tips for living alone for the first time.

You might be living alone for the first time because of many reasons. It can be by choice or forced. For example, moving to another country or migrating could be by choice. Whereas the loss of a loved one could be a forced one. Either way, it takes some time to get used to—but the transition can be worthwhile.


Chapter 1:

How Do You Feel to Live Alone for the First Time?

It’s natural to feel a bit nervous. It is a significant life change. It is also an emotional experience. Hence, you may feel sad or lonely, but living alone for the first time can also make you to learning to love yourself.

There could be various reasons for choosing to live alone. Also, one of the reasons could be if you do not feel safe and comfortable in your home. This is also a key indicator that the time has come to get your place. Another reason also could be that it seems that everything and everyone in the house annoys you. Hence you need your own space. A need for independence and freedom can also make you feel that you need to live alone. But no matter what the reason, give yourself some time to sit with the decision. So, do not be in a hurry if you’re in healthy surroundings.

Chapter 2:

Benefits of Living Alone for the First Time

Living alone for the first time can be beneficial too. There are many benefits of living alone such as-

  • You decide how you want to spend your social time.
  • You have your own space- usually more of it!
  • It is empowering- you are the boss of your house and space.
  • You get to know yourself better.
  • Finances are under your control.
  • All of your decisions are final.
  • It helps boost creativity and imagination.
  • You find time to  recharge.
  • It leads to greater personal growth.
  • Allows you to focus on your passion.

Chapter 3:

How to Know if Living Alone for the First Time Is Not for You

There are pros and cons to living alone for the first time. It is important to choose the living situation that best supports your well-being. Living alone may not be for you, and that’s OK. Also, as long as you are not feeling unsafe in your house. A few signs that you may not like living alone, at least not right now, include:

  • You don’t enjoy the moments of being on your own.
  • The thought of running a house on your own feels exhausting.
  • You’re having a tough time
  • You feel emotionally unstable.
  • You strongly feel lonely even though you cohabitate.

Chapter 4:

Tips for Living Alone for the First Time

Even if you like living alone you might feel lonely sometimes. Everyone does. But, you just do not want it to consume you. Here are some tips for living alone for the first time that will help keep the loneliness away:

1. Set Daily Routines​

Managing your time effectively is needed. Also, we might notice that we feel lonely either in the morning or at night when we are not too busy. Hence, establishing routines for both periods is helpful. It can keep you busy with healthy activities.

You can start your day with something other than checking your phone. For example, meditation, prayer or even yoga can be helpful. Getting ready the first thing in the morning can boost your mood. For your nighttime ritual, you can listen to soothing music or even have a hot shower. Practising a night care skin routine can also make you feel good.

Some helpful tips to set your routine if you are living alone for the first time-

  • Schedule time for housecleaning, errands, and other chores.
  • Try to go to bed and wake up around the same time everyday.
  • Keep time for relaxation and hobbies.

2. Limit Your Time on Social Media​

It is easy to lose track of time when you are on social media. Also, this can be tiring. Also, we tend to compare our life with others. This will make you feel more lonely if you find everyone except you is in love or partying. Replace your time on social media with other activities such as reading or listening to music.

3. Stay Connected With Loved Ones​

As soon as you feel lonely, you should try to connect quickly with people. You can call your friend or even video call a family member. Don’t allow the feeling to grow. Living alone does not mean you should detach from people. It is healthy to connect with our support system.

4. Make New Connections​

There are many groups which gather people to do certain activities together. Apps like Meetup and Eventbrite help to connect with like-minded people. Whatever you enjoy doing, many enjoy doing it too. Getting together with them can help.

5. Get To Know Yourself Better​

Living alone can help you find the time to work on yourself. Until you live alone for the first time, it is natural to spend most of your time with others. This may make you focus lesser on yourself. You can spend more time thinking about yourself and exploring your goals. You can also try journaling which can help you get deeper.

6. Get Back to Nature​

Spending time outside keeps you active. It can also help you feel more connected. And is a great stress buster. Spend some time outside with nature such as a garden or a trek. This can make you feel more compassionate and less lonely.

7. Prioritize Wellness​

When you start living alone for the first time, established habits can start to slip. Good self-care practices can improve your emotional and physical well-being. It can also make you feel good and manage loneliness.

You can try these strategies:
  • Set time aside for meal planning and food preparation. This can make you avoid ordering from outside all the time.
  • Find a workout buddy. This can motivate you to exercise regularly.
  • Try to meditate. It can help increase your awareness of what you’re feeling from day today.

8. Reach Out for Support​

Living alone for the first time isn’t for everyone. You may not enjoy it and that’s perfectly okay. Acknowledging how you feel can help you think of finding a living situation that supports your well-being. If you’re having a hard time with loneliness or other emotional issues, a therapist can help you understand how you feel.

The Bottom Line​

There is a difference between feeling lonely and being alone. It is important to make the distinction and not think that just because you live alone, no one cares about you. Living alone for the first time can be an enriching experience. Making your place feel like home and doing self-care can go a long way.

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