Moving to a New City Alone in Your 20S

Written by: Ankita Kathad – MA (Clinical Psychology)

Last updated date: March 10, 2023

Moving out to a new city can bring a lot of emotions. The 20s is an age when many people move out. For job or for work. Some move out to set up their families. Regardless of the reasons. moving out alone can be a struggle. It can bring a lot of changes. In this article, we discuss what it is like moving to a new city alone in your 20s.


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Chapter 1:

Possible Reasons for Moving to a New City Alone

There can be many reasons for moving out of the house alone in your 20s. Globalization has made it easier and necessary in some cases to move out. We have to go out for multiple reasons. Here are some of them:
  • College: One of the common reasons for people to move out to a new city alone in their 20s is for college or for higher studies. Sometimes, the city that the person resides in does not have all the courses or the desired course. This is why people have to move out. Some cities provide better opportunities for growth and have better opportunities for progress.
  • Job or Career: People movie in their 20s for job opportunities. They move to a city that offers their desired job and a good paycheck. Additionally, some city provides better job opportunities compared to others. This is also a very common reason why we see a greater migration from rural to urban areas. Sometimes, the work demands people to move from one city to the other.
  • Marriage/Family/Partnership: Many people have to move to a new city alone if they have to set up their family there or if their partners live in that city. In some cases, a business partnership also requires a person to move to a new city alone.

Chapter 2:

Moving to a New City Alone-How Does It Feel?

As discussed earlier, moving to a new city can be a mixed bag of emotions. You have to leave the place where you’ve spent most of your time as a child and a teenager. Moreover, in your 20s you are going through a lot of emotions. Additionally, there are a lot of major life decisions you need to take. Here are some emotions a person goes through when they are moving to a new city alone.
  • Homesick: This is a very common emotion that people who move to a new city alone in their 20s go through. For that matter, most people who move out to a new city alone feel homesick. This is because they are so used to the comfort of their house that they miss their home a lot. Moreover, they miss the love and warmth of their house. Changing cities can make someone feel lonely. This is because they don’t have many friends here. It is initially a little difficult to navigate in the new city. All this can make things overwhelming for the person who has moved out alone to a new city in their 20s
  • Nostalgic: Moving out to a new city alone in your 20s can make you nostalgic at many points. You can end up missing your old friends when you see a bunch of friends in a park. Moreover, little things can make you nostalgic about your home.
  • Lonely: You can feel lonely in a new city. Moving out alone means that you have to leave behind your loving friends and family members. You have to leave behind your cherished memories. This can make you lonely sometimes. Moreover, you do even know many people initially. This makes things worse.

Chapter 3:

How to Cope When You Are Moving to a New City Alone in Your 20s?

The 20s are also a crucial period in a person’s life. A lot of transitions take place. You cannot avoid moving to a new place. Moving out is a part and parcel of life. There are many ways in which moving out to a new city alone can be fun. Here’s how you can cope with changes that take place when you move out.

Plan It Out

Planning is very important when you are moving to a new city alone. You can make a list of important things. For instance, make a list of the apartment of places to live. Make arrangements beforehand so you don’t have to struggle all alone. You can do some research on places to roam in the new city. Moreover, you should figure out the monthly budget and expenditure so you are not financially struggling after reaching the new city. You can gather knowledge about maintenance charges, electricity costs, and other expenses. This will help you plan your resources better. You can plan other matters like commute, transportation, and other essentials.

Try to Make New Friends

When you are moving to a new city all alone, you can get lonely. Try making new friends. Once you make new friends, new memories follow. This will help you live a more meaningful life in this new city. You can visit the community parks or clubs for meeting new people. Sports complexes are great places to meet new people. Initially, you will miss your old friends but eventually, you will merge with the new group. You can volunteer for community service or join any local club. This way you will feel engaged and remain busy.

Go Out of Your Comfort Zone!

When you move to a new city alone, you don’t feel like getting up. Many people are apprehensive about the new neighborhood. A good idea is to kick the apprehensions away and go out. Check out for exciting events that are taking place in your neighborhood. Check out the malls and the good places. You can go for a weekend hike or a cycling trip. Many of these events are listed online. You can check them out.

Talk It Out!

Moving out to a new city all alone can be daunting. Don’t feel guilty if you are missing your family or your old life. It is a natural emotion. It is important to accept it. You can talk to your loved ones if you miss your family. You can write a journal or letter if you miss home. Additionally, if you are facing any problem in the new city, talking it out is the best solution. Your loved ones will mostly have a solution.

Chapter 4:

End Note

Many people move to a new city alone in their 20s. It is an age of transition and moving out is one big transition. Change brings many emotions with it. Many people fear moving to a new city alone because they fear social interactions. Moreover, some people also suffer from social anxiety. If you or your loved ones suffer from social anxiety and are afraid of moving to a new city alone, then Epsychonline offers courses to help you. There are self-help courses like DBT For Social Anxiety. This course has been created by experts. They help you overcome feelings of anxiety. There are articles that will help you cope with change better. Some articles such as How to deal with moving anxiety can help you deal with homesickness. Do check them out.

"Very practical suggestions" Peter

95 sections

6-Weeks Self-Paced

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  • Self-reflection material
  • Suggestions & feedback
  • Worksheet, tips & tools to use

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25% discount